Creating your own happiness

Being happy is something that is YOUR responsibility. Do you think you have to be happy because things are moving on fine?, you have everything under control? A fat bank account, nice home, great husband or wife, wonderful kids, great boss at the office plus a good job that gives u a fat pay-check at the end of the month, etc? These are NOT where your happiness should depend. Hey, they are sure perfect reasons to be happy, I mean, who doesn't want those, but it should not be where your happiness lies. They are two different thing you know. Having your happiness lie on external factors like those, means that if they are not going fine, then you loose it! (your happiness). That is why YOU have to CREATE your own happiness! Yes, be the person to determine if and when you have to be happy. Those external factors are not dependent on you. They are dependent on other people and your environment I mean, if your husband or wife or kids decides to change or piss you off on a particular day, what can you do about it? If your boss in the office becomes a nightmare to you, what can you do? The thing is, there are some cases you can't really change. It's not every time that you have things UNDER CONTROL, sometimes they DO GET OUT OF CONTROL and at such times, the result is you get sad. I just explained what happens to us, why some of us wake up one day and we feel so on top of the world and other days, you don't even wish to get out of the bed. In creating your own happiness, you are telling yourself that whether or not every other thing goes right or wrong, you can make your self happy. So, creating your happiness is finding that something you do that gets you on top of the world. That one thing is your 'soul mate'. Most times, all we have as soul mates are human beings, which are external factors that we don't have full control over. But I'm talking about SOMETHING that gets you going each time you do it or you think of it. I have a pretty silly 'soul mate' like that, my little secret, but will share it. When I discovered it, believe me, it was so stupid, but very helpful. My soul mate?-Counting ceiling boards! (feeling shy :) ) But anyway, that's it. I just lie down on my bed at those 'melancholic' nights, you know, the sad times and start counting my ceilings. Another of my soul mate's drawing! From 'Tinky-winky,' to 'Winnie-the-poo,' to 'cramp twins'. Yea, sounds childish huh? But that's why kids are always happy in their world,-The things they do. Well, you don't have to be like me, but all I'm saying's that, your 'soul mate', I mean what will make you happy might be so odd and silly, you'd feel so stupid, bit it doesn't matter, JUST DO IT! The most important thing at the end is that U'R H-A-P-P-Y! Kisses...

Complaining? IT NEVER WORKS!

Hey, before I go on. I will like you (If you have not) to take a look at the previous posts so you can understand what I am about to say now. Well, who never complains? I guess all of us are guilty of that. You know, we have done that at one point or another. So I want to look at it today. Is it really worth it? I mean, does it change our situation for good or makes us feel better? or Is it some sort of bad habit that we need to push off? Complaining, from my experiences, adds nothing to the situation, I mean nothing positive. Ofcourse, it can add something, like shooting your blood pressure, giving you wrinkles and the rest of it (You sure don't wanna have those!). All I'm saying's that, If you want to live, seeing the brighter side of life at most times, living a happy life most of the times, then one bad habit you gotta kick in the butt is complaining. Something I have discovered also, is that the moment I quit complaining about the things I don't have and start being grateful for the things I have, then things start falling into place! Yes, they do. So why complain? Matter of fact, it doesn't change your situation, so give it up. You know, I have problem with putting my foot down and doing something that DOES NOT IN ANY WAY profit me, and I know a whole lot of people are like that so, if it is not profitable, then DON'T DO IT! Think about it...

Pasts are pasts! (2)

Talked about understanding that our mistakes are just something to learn from and move on and not something to keep us in self-pity forever. Now, Just want to continue a little bit from that. When you have understood that your mistakes in the past are some sort of stepping stone to you and not stumbling block, then try to see the brighter side of life.Want to talk about what I call my One-Percent-After all. Are all things SEEMINGLY turning against you?. I used the word- SEEMINGLY 'cos ALL things NEVER really turn against us. It's just that most of the times, we have PARTICULAR things that we feel are supposed to be right. And when they are not right, it SEEMS EVERYTHING is against us. But the moment we stick our head out of that one thing we want and look at other things, we see that SO MANY other things are ACTUALLY working for us. So it's like this: 99 percent of a whole lot of stuffs might seem to be wrong to us, but there is one-percent that is right after all. Your problem may be your kids, but you have a husband, a nice job and some good friends to be grateful about (for instance). To some other persons, it could be their husband, but the kids are there, the nice friends are there, etc.
Today, I want you to decide to see at least one more reason why you shouldn't kill your self with self pity or why you shouldn't be sad and be grateful for it. There's always ONE-PERCENT_AFTERALL...

Pasts are Pasts!

Do you know your pasts are really pasts?. Who you were yesterday cannot determine who you will be tomorrow if YOU don't allow it. So many of us have made mistakes in the past, but we let it roll. A mistake is a mistake, you just need to learn what you have to learn and move on! So if you are still mourning over a very terrible mistake you made in the past, its time to let go honey. Just sit down right now and think of the lessons you are supposed to learn from it so IT DOESN'T HAPPEN AGAIN. When you 've done that, realize that no matter how you cry over it or pull yourself into self pity, YOU CANNOT CHANGE IT and I repeat YOU CANNOT CHANGE IT!, so why kill yourself over a spilt milk? Think of it!

So, what r u lettin' go?

Hey, said something about letting go right? So what is it u ve to let go? Those bad pasts! U ve been hurt? U ve been battered? U ve been abused, used n dumped? let it go! I know it is not easy, so that is why u ve to keep a date with this blog to find out how...luv u

Let it go!

I'm going to start a series I call 'Let it go!', 'cos I discoveed that for us to live a truly happy life, there are things we can't afford to take along with us....

Create your own happiness!

The first thing I want to share about living a happy life is being able to create your own happiness. Relying on your external environment to make you happy is one sure way of being so unhappy. The reason is 'cos we have different people around us that probably find it difficult to understand us, every other thing around us is as well subject to change either for good or for bad, so when we rely on them for our happiness, they can fail us at any time! so YOU discover that thing that makes you happy and do it each time you get that feeling that you are about to go on the 'low' side....

Want to live a happier life?, This is how!

I 've always wondered, is it possible for one to be happy all the time, irrespective of the situation, moreso in a world like ours with so much not-too-pretty stuffs happening? Well, the answer is a big YES! Keep a date with me and learn how...