Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Managing ur Anger- Slipping off!

I'll be sharing on something I do that have also worked for me. That's 'slipping off! I use that when I'm with extremely unbearable persons that I can't do anything about. Talk about the nagging boss, parents and your superiors generally.Those people u can't afford to look around when they are talking to u because they have an authority over u. So, they stand u in front of them and pour out those cutting words on u. Those words that make u feel so bad and angry that u want to slice off their throats!, but hey, he's your boss and u need your pay check like oxygen! So what do u do? Simple-SLIP OFF! (In your mind sweetheart).

Its funny and a bit crazy, but it works. I've done that a hundred times ( I stay with my grand mum and u don't want to know how she nags!) Simply fix your gaze on the person and take a trip to your wonder land baby. Think of the best moments u ever had in life ( try not to smile though, U wouldn't like what will happen). Just DON'T LISTEN! U'll definitely HEAR, but don't listen. They are two different things. U'll HEAR because u are not deaf, but u are not listening because u are not paying attention!. Remember, u're not going to look around (that's disrepectful to your boss), but do the mind thing honey. Get your mind off the environment and by the time he's through, u come back (call me naughty, but hey, one has to do what one has to do). Tell him u are sorry for all he said u did and give him a 'Thank u' plus a smile. Believe me, u have succeeded in shielding off some effects from the words. U will still feel it, but not as much as if u had paid full attention. That way, U can put up with the most unbearable persons and live your life happier, better and lovelier. That is what I want and know u want that too: A beautiful life- No stress especially, on my emotions.

Wednesday, April 1, 2009

Ever been angry? That's a Yes! I know. Anger is that feeling you get when someone or something gets at you so much that you react in a way that you would not have reacted normally. Most times ofcourse, it's a negative reaction.
Its not really bad that we get angry, (anybody who claims he doesn't is telling nice, but unbearble lies!), but the problem's how we react to it. Everybody gets angry, but the reaction produces the classification of some as hot-tempered, quick-tempered, even-tempered, etc.
So, what do you do when that person, I mean, that nagging colleague in the office makes that thing in you to snap so badly that you can literally feel yourself breaking? Is it to shout immediately or keep quiet and later plot revenge, or simply ignore?
You see, I used to be on the hot-tempered list. You dare me, I burn you! With my mouth ofcourse. Later I thought, "okay, the mouth thing's bad, so I'll keep quiet", but I end up plotting a revenge and having the whole piled up anger burst out over a little thing. So I realized shouting immediately or reserving the anger doesn't work and that's how I discovered the few things I'll be sharing in this 'Managing your Anger' series.
First is 'Switching your mind to the 'Diversion Mode'. This is the time you have to take a look around for the smallest thing to take your mind off when faced with those situations that would upset you greatly. It could be from a print on a T-shirt to a nearby newspaper headline, down to the colour of the room you're in. Just anything that can quickly divert your attention. I remember one of those days when I was so pissed off by my best friend, I looked around and all I saw was a coca-cola can. I picked it and was going through the ingredients, then I saw water-H20. That reminded me of my first day in a chemistry Laboratory when I was performing the titeration experiment and I drank a pretty large quantity of base! That memory made me laugh so much and by the time I thought of all my friend said to me, I discovered I have calmed down to some extent! This is just an instance of how very little things can make you wander off and thus, divert your mind away from your source of anger.
Next is...Slipping off....Keep a date.