Get that pain off!

Having known that what helps us is when we know that the person that hurt us did so unconsciously, how then can one really get over hurt easily?
GIVE YOURSELF TIME: Time heals more than the best medicines ever. With a broken heart? just know that with time, you are definitely going to get over it. I have experienced this. I had a terrific bonding with my grand daddy (‘cos I grew up with him); he was in fact, my hero. I loved him so much and he loved me so much that each time I watch him grow old and realize he would go one day, I couldn’t in any way accept it. But then it happened, he died! His death was the first ever hurt, brokenness and sadness I ever knew. I just convinced myself that I can’t take it. I already knew my life was gone wacko (or so I thought). I cried for days, weeks and months, till he was buried. After his burial, I still sneaked into the rest room every now and then to cry over him. After a while, I realized something; the tears weren’t coming again! Try as I may, they don’t just come. Then I found out that the wound has been healed. No more tears for grand daddy, ‘cos he’s gone and that is it. It took time for me to get that.

ACCEPT THE FACT: Don’t ever try to deny yourself of the fact that you were hurt. I mean, accept it as reality that the deed has been done and that you are not in some kind of dream or fantasy. He left you for another girl? Even after you have said “I can’t believe it!” Dearie, still believe it. This is because once your mind accepts and understands the reality of what has been done, it will then device a means of getting over it, but as long as you still convince yourself that it’s some nightmare you’ll wake up from, you’ll live with it.

FORGIVE: Even when it’s so obvious that you were deliberately hurt, FORGIVE! Yes, forgive. I’m not going to dwell on this ‘cos forgiveness is the next issue I’ll deal with, so keep a date. This is ‘cos forgiveness is no easy thing so I’m not just going to rush over it, but once you forgive, your wounds heal.
Keep a date….