Hurt-How best to handle it

Hmm... I have been hurt so many times and I know I'm not solo here. It has happened to you I know. As long as there are people around us, hurt is so inevitable. As long as relationships exist, we cannot run away from hurt. So the question is, how do we get over it since we can't get away from it?

One thing to remember is this: Most times we get hurt, it's not deliberate. I mean, it's not really a conscious act by the other person to hurt us. This is very important to note because, I have come to realize that what really hurts us when we are hurt is the fact that the other person willingly and knowingly hurt us. This is possible I know, but sometimes, we have to think outside that. Everything in life has a two side to it, so how about the other side that says that the person DID NOT DELIBERATELY hurt us. I have found out that it is easier to get over hurt when we reason in that direction. Not only is it a way of getting better, but it's a fact: Some persons DO NOT hurt us deliberately. Here are a few ways we can get to understand this:
REASON #1: TEMPERAMENT: This is the trait that everybody is born with. It is an inherited trait that comes with so much weaknesses and strengths. I'm not going to be discussing the different types of temperament but basically, there are four basic temperaments and several blends: Sanguine, choleric, melancholy and phlegmatic (You can research more about the temperament type). Now with your knowledge about the different temperament types, you’ll see that most people do what they do or treat us the way they do, just because they are living out who they are! They are just being them. This is because every human being exhibits strengths and weaknesses, now depending on the side we see most, we tend to term some people good or bad. So, that person that hurt us was simply exhibiting the negative side of him/her and did not just wake up one morning and said “You see Mr. A, I’m going to deal with him so much that he’ll wish to die”, NO! He was just being him. Again, think about the fact that YOU, and I mean YOU, have your own weaknesses and MUST have hurt someone else without knowing, so let it go!
REASON #2: BACKGROUNGS: Some people have a completely different background from you, so don’t expect them to behave just exactly like you. Most times, we expect so much from people, without understanding where they are coming from, and when it doesn’t work out, we cry out “Oh, he has hurt me,; how can she be so mean; what kind of person is this?” Well, sadly, we have made someone else say just exactly the same thing about us, because without proper understanding, we must have friction with people of different background with us.
REASON #3: BELIEFS AND GENERAL WORLD VIEWS: People have different beliefs about life and the more we understand that, the better for us, because we won’t compel them to reason like us.
These are a few reasons why we have to understand that only few people deliberately hurt us. What we have is simply a clash of backgrounds, weaknesses, ideas and therefore should be able to get over it quickly.